I recently saw a fb status saying "I wish my husband didn't have to go to work. EVER." The posting of this status was quickly followed by dozens of likes and dozens of comments stating how much these commenting wives wanted their husbands home with them all day. How they LOVE to be together. How they NEED to talk to them and be with them. <3
After a few minutes of laughing out loud, I took a breath and thought about the feelings and thoughts behind these "likes" and comments.
Did these women really want their husband home with them so they could spend all day together, doing things together? Or, was it the desire for their husband to be home and to do their work FOR them? These posting, liking, commenting women were all stay at home moms with small children. These are women who had made a conscience choice to quit their jobs and stay home with their children. Don't get me wrong, I think being a SAHM is a wonderful thing to do. If your family can afford to do it or if you can adjust to living within the means of a one income family, I think it is the best thing you can do for your family. I also think, having made this decision, being a SAHM is a job. Part of the job is being the support the working spouse needs to continue to go back into the working world day after day. It doesn't mean your spouse works for you. What happened to the Proverbs 31 woman?
I know my mom thought I had it easy while I was home with my child. And, I did. I had a washer and dryer in my house. I had a dishwasher and a microwave oven. I had a VHS with as many Disney tapes as any child could view. I could afford to call long distance to my mom whenever I needed her. Compared to the 1950's and 1960's when my mother was home with my brothers and me, you bet I had it easier.
Now I'm looking at these women posting their status on facebook and having their status liked and commented on within a split second of posting. Are they on facebook ALL THE TIME? It makes me wonder. Where is the time spent playing with children? Where is the time spent reading to children? Cooking for them? Oh, and pouring a can of soup over rice isn't really cooking. Washing their clothes? Cleaning up after them? How do they have time to be on facebook so much? Btw, the status poster also commented that she and her husband emailed and called each other many times during the work day. So,it seems, neither of them are putting in a full day of work.
I saw a magnet on my mom's refrigerator. It said "Retirement, twice the husband, half the money."
This ^ is my future. I'm not saying I'm not looking forward to being retired. 'cause I am. I'm not saying I'm not looking forward to being with my husband ALL DAY. 'cause I am. I guess I'm saying, I may end up being on facebook a lot more. ;)
After a few minutes of laughing out loud, I took a breath and thought about the feelings and thoughts behind these "likes" and comments.
Did these women really want their husband home with them so they could spend all day together, doing things together? Or, was it the desire for their husband to be home and to do their work FOR them? These posting, liking, commenting women were all stay at home moms with small children. These are women who had made a conscience choice to quit their jobs and stay home with their children. Don't get me wrong, I think being a SAHM is a wonderful thing to do. If your family can afford to do it or if you can adjust to living within the means of a one income family, I think it is the best thing you can do for your family. I also think, having made this decision, being a SAHM is a job. Part of the job is being the support the working spouse needs to continue to go back into the working world day after day. It doesn't mean your spouse works for you. What happened to the Proverbs 31 woman?
I know my mom thought I had it easy while I was home with my child. And, I did. I had a washer and dryer in my house. I had a dishwasher and a microwave oven. I had a VHS with as many Disney tapes as any child could view. I could afford to call long distance to my mom whenever I needed her. Compared to the 1950's and 1960's when my mother was home with my brothers and me, you bet I had it easier.
Now I'm looking at these women posting their status on facebook and having their status liked and commented on within a split second of posting. Are they on facebook ALL THE TIME? It makes me wonder. Where is the time spent playing with children? Where is the time spent reading to children? Cooking for them? Oh, and pouring a can of soup over rice isn't really cooking. Washing their clothes? Cleaning up after them? How do they have time to be on facebook so much? Btw, the status poster also commented that she and her husband emailed and called each other many times during the work day. So,it seems, neither of them are putting in a full day of work.
I saw a magnet on my mom's refrigerator. It said "Retirement, twice the husband, half the money."
This ^ is my future. I'm not saying I'm not looking forward to being retired. 'cause I am. I'm not saying I'm not looking forward to being with my husband ALL DAY. 'cause I am. I guess I'm saying, I may end up being on facebook a lot more. ;)
