Thursday, July 21, 2011

Dependability is my middle name

I just got an email from a friend regarding a last minute trip to North Carolina and the possibility of me going with her.  I am not the first person my friend asked to accompany her on this trip.  She asked another friend and is waiting to hear back.  I completely understand the desire of having a friend with you on a trip away.  My friend's husband had to cancel at the last minute because of work and all the accommodations are arranged and it's too late to cancel.  So, she's hedging her bets.  She's asking two different friends if they can get away at the last minute.  It's a good idea.  Girls (ok, women) like doing things together better than doing things alone.  Anyway, she wrote an email to me with the dates of the trip to see if they would work with my schedule and one of the lines in the email says,

"Please still check the dates.  She is not as dependable as you are (is there anyone who is?????)."

So, I'm dependable.  I have to admit, when I saw the words written on the screen I didn't think it was a compliment.  Dependable...  Regular...  Reliable...  boring.  

I know I've posted about my Myers Briggs personality score and how I test out to be an ISTJYou can click the MBTI label at the bottom of the post if you'd like to look back at some of those posts.  I am the Duty Fulfiller of the personality types.  There is absolutely nothing exciting about me.  I will not rock your boat.  In fact, I'll most likely do the annual maintenance for your boat, or at least, ensure the annual maintenance is done by someone.  Boring

One of the first things I thought of when I saw this line in the email was, "am I always available?"  I had to think about this for a little while.  I like to do fun things.  I like to go out.  I need to force myself because I can very easily start getting stuck at home and wearing yoga pants and a t-shirt and drinking tequila in front of the tv and watching too much Doc Martin.  But, the answer is, I'm not too available.  I've been asked to do things at the last minute and I've been previously committed.  See, I'm duty bound to my commitments.  I guess if I was a more exciting person I'd pick the MOST FUN thing to do and dump the other, even if it was the first commitment I made.  No, I could never do that.  I'm just not that kind of girl.  Reliable.

Another thing I thought of when I read the line in the email was this.  Depends.  Aren't they some kind of pad for old ladies with bladder control issues?  I have no idea why I thought this.  Oh, maybe I do...  I had a cold last week and I was sneezing a lot.  Yeah, that may have been what put the diaper thing on my mind.  I digress.

So, I'm the second choice invitee of my girlfriend on a spontaneous trip to North Carolina.  I'm dependable, reliable, faithful, loyal, a good citizen, dutiful, obsessed with structure, honest, serious, have great follow-through, goal oriented, and "by the book."  I'm not the most exciting girl you're ever going to meet.  But,

I hope I get to go.  Keep your fingers crossed for me.

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11 comments:

  1. smiles. we have to keep our boundaries, because we can not always be available...but leave it open for a little spontenaity...have fun if you go!

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  2. I love dependable people!!!! I'm an ENFJ...like Oprah and Barack.

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  3. This interesting - 10 years ago Iwas an INFP and now I'm INFJ.  Not sure if I like that judging aspect.  Hmmm.   I always shake out on cusp between being an Introvert and Extrovert - I'm either at different times or different situations.

    So - I think your friend should have picked just you to go on the trip - what's that about?  I think being dependable is a golden way to be.  I wish more people were that way.

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  4. I attract INFJ's like they are moths to my flame.  I just don't get it.  When they get to know me better, they end up being afraid of me.  :)  Nice to meet you, Lynn.  ;)

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  5. Oh, this is so me!

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  6. Whoever you are, it's okay, because it's you...does that make sense. I love dependable people. I consider that a virtue. Those are the people I surround myself with, those are the good friends. Take care!

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  7. I can't imagine being afraid of you.  :)  And I wonder if having a glass of wine while doing that test swayed me to the J area.  :)

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  8. I've found some people don't REALLY want to hear the truth.  And I'm a "just the facts, mamm" kind of girl.  :)  But, I'm kinda fun to be around. 

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  9. I am an INTJ--a small % of the population are this type.  It's okay to be who you are. I would rather be around someone who keeps their word than someone who does not.

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  10. We are almost the same, I am an INTJ.  :)

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  11. After 5 children - sneezing is a hazard - LOL - God is reliable. God is consistent. God doesn't let down - and He created EVERYTHING! You are in good company!!!! Hope you get to go, too!

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