I'm thinking about the relationships in my life and the effect they have on my happiness journey. Today I'm examining the relationships in my life that are the closest.
I have an amazing husband. I can't possibly tell all there is to tell about him, but I can tell you that he loves me and I feel SO loved by this man. I am able to share anything with him. I am so glad for this trait of his. At this time of my life I don't have very many girlfriends. Now, I have a couple close friends, and I appreciate them so much. But, they are busy people. Most people at this stage of life are busy, hard-working people. We don't have small children giving us the opportunity for play-dates or school activities. It seems that I have been drawn to people that have jobs that send them on travel and aren't home all the time. I'm not a big fan of talking on the phone and different time zones make it difficult. Wow, I've digressed. I was supposed to be talking about my husband. I'm so blessed that my husband no longer has a job that involves travel. You would think that means he is home a lot. Well, he is home every night, but he it not home a lot. You see, I am a dissertation widow. My husband is working on his PhD. I am a bit lonely, but I understand. He usually gets home from the office about 9:00 p.m. and usually spends one day of the weekend writing. I am so proud of him. When he is home, he is there for me. Today he is totally OK with me staying in jammies and chillin'. It was a very rough week at the office, but I'm not going to talk about that. He lets me talk to him about my insensitive boss, crazy church ladies, and any "out there" thing I need to talk about. He allows me to decompress. He encourages me in my eBay endeavors. He tells me I'm a GREAT cook. He loves the choices I've made in decorating our home. He encourages me to go away with a girlfriend when the opportunity arises. Sometimes I worry that he makes it all about me, but I know that is not true. I'm blessed to be married 28 years. (Ha, I just had to ask him how long we've been married, and he knew.) One thing about appreciating him is that when he asks me for something, I'm so glad. I like to be able to help him out. (He has stopped asking for THAT, 'cause it's just NOT going to happen, ha.) I know this kind of relationship is not something everyone has, and there were times earlier in my marriage that I didn't think I would have it, but I DO. And I thank God every day.
We have a son. Our son is 23 years old and he lives with us. I love my son. I know my son thinks I hate him, but I don't. I'm not completely happy with where he is in his life right now, but I am not hopeless. Our son did not continue his education after high school and does not have a full-time job, but he does work "almost" full-time. It's certainly not a career path I would dream of for him, but it's a job. Our son has a learning disability, so school was always difficult for him. I think he could take college classes, but he is just not ready yet. Right now he has taken my wet clothes to the laundromat to dry them. Our dryer died today. It's great that he will help out and contribute to our family. It's not always a willing action, but it is something he will do if asked twice or three times. I'm seeking to be a more positive person towards him. I want him to know I believe in him. I believe God has a plan for him. I am so glad that he is a good man. He is respectful to people. He is a sober person. Now, I HATE the video games and the whole "gaming" culture, but he loves it. What 'cha gonna do? btw, I am completely open to suggestions on this matter.
You know, when I see the feelings I have for my family in writing it makes me love them all the more. As I've taken this time to write I think of the positive things about them. When I just talk about them to others, I think I have more of a tendency to run them down and talk about their faults. Hmmm. I wonder why this is so? I really don't know any of the folks who've commented or read this blog personally, so you don't even know who my husband and son are. Yet I've stayed positive AND it makes me FEEL positively towards them RIGHT NOW. I've heard that positive words can evoke positive feelings. Well, let me tell you...it does.
I have an amazing husband. I can't possibly tell all there is to tell about him, but I can tell you that he loves me and I feel SO loved by this man. I am able to share anything with him. I am so glad for this trait of his. At this time of my life I don't have very many girlfriends. Now, I have a couple close friends, and I appreciate them so much. But, they are busy people. Most people at this stage of life are busy, hard-working people. We don't have small children giving us the opportunity for play-dates or school activities. It seems that I have been drawn to people that have jobs that send them on travel and aren't home all the time. I'm not a big fan of talking on the phone and different time zones make it difficult. Wow, I've digressed. I was supposed to be talking about my husband. I'm so blessed that my husband no longer has a job that involves travel. You would think that means he is home a lot. Well, he is home every night, but he it not home a lot. You see, I am a dissertation widow. My husband is working on his PhD. I am a bit lonely, but I understand. He usually gets home from the office about 9:00 p.m. and usually spends one day of the weekend writing. I am so proud of him. When he is home, he is there for me. Today he is totally OK with me staying in jammies and chillin'. It was a very rough week at the office, but I'm not going to talk about that. He lets me talk to him about my insensitive boss, crazy church ladies, and any "out there" thing I need to talk about. He allows me to decompress. He encourages me in my eBay endeavors. He tells me I'm a GREAT cook. He loves the choices I've made in decorating our home. He encourages me to go away with a girlfriend when the opportunity arises. Sometimes I worry that he makes it all about me, but I know that is not true. I'm blessed to be married 28 years. (Ha, I just had to ask him how long we've been married, and he knew.) One thing about appreciating him is that when he asks me for something, I'm so glad. I like to be able to help him out. (He has stopped asking for THAT, 'cause it's just NOT going to happen, ha.) I know this kind of relationship is not something everyone has, and there were times earlier in my marriage that I didn't think I would have it, but I DO. And I thank God every day.
We have a son. Our son is 23 years old and he lives with us. I love my son. I know my son thinks I hate him, but I don't. I'm not completely happy with where he is in his life right now, but I am not hopeless. Our son did not continue his education after high school and does not have a full-time job, but he does work "almost" full-time. It's certainly not a career path I would dream of for him, but it's a job. Our son has a learning disability, so school was always difficult for him. I think he could take college classes, but he is just not ready yet. Right now he has taken my wet clothes to the laundromat to dry them. Our dryer died today. It's great that he will help out and contribute to our family. It's not always a willing action, but it is something he will do if asked twice or three times. I'm seeking to be a more positive person towards him. I want him to know I believe in him. I believe God has a plan for him. I am so glad that he is a good man. He is respectful to people. He is a sober person. Now, I HATE the video games and the whole "gaming" culture, but he loves it. What 'cha gonna do? btw, I am completely open to suggestions on this matter.
You know, when I see the feelings I have for my family in writing it makes me love them all the more. As I've taken this time to write I think of the positive things about them. When I just talk about them to others, I think I have more of a tendency to run them down and talk about their faults. Hmmm. I wonder why this is so? I really don't know any of the folks who've commented or read this blog personally, so you don't even know who my husband and son are. Yet I've stayed positive AND it makes me FEEL positively towards them RIGHT NOW. I've heard that positive words can evoke positive feelings. Well, let me tell you...it does.
