tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4865699211711235354.post4760873491419318933..comments2023-07-05T10:42:38.326-04:00Comments on Being Happy: Relationships - familyhappygirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4865699211711235354.post-37172708130718814152011-02-02T11:21:31.135-05:002011-02-02T11:21:31.135-05:00@ Brian - Great idea! I have played some games wi...@ Brian - Great idea! I have played some games with him. I'll give it another try. <br /><br />@ Sara - Thank you for the positive perspective. I pray every day for the positive aspects of gaming to wash over him. He is a good man.happygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16554653800961247808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4865699211711235354.post-9081644022956308522011-02-02T10:59:07.926-05:002011-02-02T10:59:07.926-05:00Video games actually are great learning tools! Her...Video games actually are great learning tools! Here is an excerpt from an unschooling site I read:<br /><br />What can video games teach?<br /><br />Problem solving, reading, research, numeracy (number concepts, 'math'), computer literacy/using the Internet, literature (plotlines, characters, context, setting, mood), music (some videogame music has actually been released on CD because the soundtracks are amazing), team work (many multiplayer games require working together to accomplish a task), patience and sticking to a task to reach a goal, strategy/planning, delayed gratification - if you go straight for that sack of gold that you can see straight ahead, you'll get killed BUT if you go around the other side and wait for the 'guard' to go past, you can grab it safely, art (the graphics and production values of videogames are usually very high quality). Often videogame playing will lead to interests (short or long term) in graphics, art, film production, creative writing (inventing story lines and characters), programming, special effects, music (sometimes DS will hear a new piece of music and say "that would be good for such-and-such type scene in thus-and-such type game"), languages, and other things. Some games either came from or spawned print forms that are related - manga, graphic novels, books, etc.<br /><br />And, coming back to it, I realized that in the 'delayed gratification' area I forgot budgeting - delaying purchasing some items in the game in order to get something else, planning purchases, figuring income, sometimes actually 'working' for the coin of the realm in order to purchase something - whether working entails beating a gym leader or crafting a potion or creating a t-shirt or buying an item at auction and selling it at a profit, whatever; etc."<br /><br />Something to think about :) You might enjoy the book Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn...I know he's 23, but you'll always be his parent and can continue to read about it!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05354167372400575265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4865699211711235354.post-58028629881299533792011-01-31T18:27:59.793-05:002011-01-31T18:27:59.793-05:00smiles. love all the great words about your fam......smiles. love all the great words about your fam...on the video games...have you tried playing them with him? i know you hate it but...just a thought...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4865699211711235354.post-89004320881639683872011-01-31T00:09:25.010-05:002011-01-31T00:09:25.010-05:00fyi, on facebook notes I sometimes write what I ca...fyi, on facebook notes I sometimes write what I call my " I married a good man" series.<br />Little things he does that remind me I did marry a good man. It's most helpful when my focus isn't on the positive re: him. that's mainly why I started it. And to let our children know the good things too. <br />also in about a week our 30 yr. old son will be moving home. He lost his job, and is running out of money trying to find another. This economy makes it hard. Along w/some choices he's made. Regardless, I know there will be times I'll need the reminder of his good characteristics too.<br />At different times in our parenting I've repeated this to myself, " we have good kids. We don't know any parole officers due to them, they are healthy, and they are living." <br />Because some days.... I need the reminder to look for the positive.<br />thanks for your good examples today.flower power mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06842024984467546082noreply@blogger.com