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Thursday, January 13, 2011
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Finally...
I went to the gym at lunch today. I remembered the combination on my locker. Oh yeah, I'm hurting.
I can't believe I've put this off so long. I need to get moving again. I know exercise changes your body and I know it changes how you think about yourself. I think I'm a stronger person, mentally when my body feels stronger. I feel braver. I feel more powerful. I AM WOMAN!!! (yeah, I'm A woman, but not THAT kind of woman).
Here's a little information for any young women reading my blog. (first of all, I really really really hope you are reading) When you get to be an older woman, your body starts to let you down. I really need to write a blog on menopause. I've survived it, and let me tell you, it makes periods look like a walk in the park. My body now wants to hold on to every pound it gains. My body CRAVES sweets. I think it wants me to be fat and lazy. I need to fight my natural urges and MOVE.
I have a next-door neighbor who is a BEAUTIFUL woman. She is my age. Every morning I get up for work and when I look out my window I see the light is on in the room containing her treadmill. I know she is on it every morning at six A.M. She is dedicated to keeping her body in shape and it shows. I need to take that as inspiration. I WANT to be inspired and not be jealous. This body of hers didn't JUST HAPPEN. She works for it. Inspiration is a positive feeling and thought. Jealousy is a negative feeling and thought. I'm going to choose the positive.
Now, does that mean I can get up early and use a treadmill? I don't know. But I can go to the gym at lunch. I have a work-out buddy and she's VERY encouraging. My friend is a POSITIVE person. I think I've mentioned, for a happy healthy frame of mind one should hang around positive people. That is what I'm going to do.
And, I'm going back to the gym.
I can't believe I've put this off so long. I need to get moving again. I know exercise changes your body and I know it changes how you think about yourself. I think I'm a stronger person, mentally when my body feels stronger. I feel braver. I feel more powerful. I AM WOMAN!!! (yeah, I'm A woman, but not THAT kind of woman).
Here's a little information for any young women reading my blog. (first of all, I really really really hope you are reading) When you get to be an older woman, your body starts to let you down. I really need to write a blog on menopause. I've survived it, and let me tell you, it makes periods look like a walk in the park. My body now wants to hold on to every pound it gains. My body CRAVES sweets. I think it wants me to be fat and lazy. I need to fight my natural urges and MOVE.
I have a next-door neighbor who is a BEAUTIFUL woman. She is my age. Every morning I get up for work and when I look out my window I see the light is on in the room containing her treadmill. I know she is on it every morning at six A.M. She is dedicated to keeping her body in shape and it shows. I need to take that as inspiration. I WANT to be inspired and not be jealous. This body of hers didn't JUST HAPPEN. She works for it. Inspiration is a positive feeling and thought. Jealousy is a negative feeling and thought. I'm going to choose the positive.
Now, does that mean I can get up early and use a treadmill? I don't know. But I can go to the gym at lunch. I have a work-out buddy and she's VERY encouraging. My friend is a POSITIVE person. I think I've mentioned, for a happy healthy frame of mind one should hang around positive people. That is what I'm going to do.
And, I'm going back to the gym.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
What's up with the Happy Thoughts tab?
If you've opened the Happy Thoughts tab, you've probably wondered, What the heck? Let me explain.
One of the ways I've been working on myself in the pursuit of Being Happy is to change negative thoughts into positive thoughts. I'm sure this is not an issue for most people, but for me it is a difficult thing to do. I can't tell you why I have a tendency to focus on the negative. Or, why the glass is usually half empty for me, but it is. I haven't always seen this trait of mine as a negative. I used to think this trait helped me find all the mistakes or flaws in a person, situation, or myself and gave me the opportunity to fix them. Over the years I've found this tendency of mine to find the flaws or to be suspicious of the intentions people have is hurting me and reinforcing a negative view of the world. This negative view of the world and the people in it makes Being Happy harder than it needs to be. I want to change this about myself. I want to see the positive in people. I want to see the positive in situations. I want to Be A More Positive Person.
How is this accomplished?
After much conversation with professionals in the mental health biz I have learned that positive thinking is a choice. This is so surprising to me. I did not realize we can choose our thoughts. I just thought thoughts happened. I have learned to notice when I have a negative thought, I can take that thought and turn it into a positive thought.
Now, this is not going to be as easy as it sounds. In my pursuit of Happy Thoughts I decided to jot down the positive thought that is the opposite of any negative thought I may have while I was working on my blog. Hey, it's a start. This, I hope, will help you understand the randomness of the Happy Thoughts.
This is a brand new concept for me, so you will have to cut me some slack in this area. I've been Debbie Downer for 53 years. Change isn't going to happen overnight. But, let me tell you something that happened to me the other day. I had a brief chat with a woman that works in my building about a conversation I had just had with a new VP in my building. My take on the convo was to be suspicious. This VP had just asked me what I did over my Christmas break. Did I have family come to visit? Where did my family live? Am I close with them? My brain was spinning. What did that person want from me? What was she trying to get from me? what what what? When I spoke to my friend, she said the
Being friendly...Seeing the positive in a situation...Turning my negative thoughts about people and situations into positive thoughts. I Can Do This.
I hope this explains the Happy Thoughts tab.
One of the ways I've been working on myself in the pursuit of Being Happy is to change negative thoughts into positive thoughts. I'm sure this is not an issue for most people, but for me it is a difficult thing to do. I can't tell you why I have a tendency to focus on the negative. Or, why the glass is usually half empty for me, but it is. I haven't always seen this trait of mine as a negative. I used to think this trait helped me find all the mistakes or flaws in a person, situation, or myself and gave me the opportunity to fix them. Over the years I've found this tendency of mine to find the flaws or to be suspicious of the intentions people have is hurting me and reinforcing a negative view of the world. This negative view of the world and the people in it makes Being Happy harder than it needs to be. I want to change this about myself. I want to see the positive in people. I want to see the positive in situations. I want to Be A More Positive Person.
How is this accomplished?
After much conversation with professionals in the mental health biz I have learned that positive thinking is a choice. This is so surprising to me. I did not realize we can choose our thoughts. I just thought thoughts happened. I have learned to notice when I have a negative thought, I can take that thought and turn it into a positive thought.
Now, this is not going to be as easy as it sounds. In my pursuit of Happy Thoughts I decided to jot down the positive thought that is the opposite of any negative thought I may have while I was working on my blog. Hey, it's a start. This, I hope, will help you understand the randomness of the Happy Thoughts.
This is a brand new concept for me, so you will have to cut me some slack in this area. I've been Debbie Downer for 53 years. Change isn't going to happen overnight. But, let me tell you something that happened to me the other day. I had a brief chat with a woman that works in my building about a conversation I had just had with a new VP in my building. My take on the convo was to be suspicious. This VP had just asked me what I did over my Christmas break. Did I have family come to visit? Where did my family live? Am I close with them? My brain was spinning. What did that person want from me? What was she trying to get from me? what what what? When I spoke to my friend, she said the
Most Amazing Thing.
She said the convo about my personal life was most likely an opportunity to get to know me better. Most likely because we had gotten off on the wrong foot when she first started working in our building. I was shocked. This thought had not and would not in a million years have occurred to me. This woman was just trying to be friendly. What a concept.Being friendly...Seeing the positive in a situation...Turning my negative thoughts about people and situations into positive thoughts. I Can Do This.
I hope this explains the Happy Thoughts tab.
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Yeah, I'm feeling a lot better about the whole thing
I found this video on YouTube. If Jessica can affirm herself in the mirror in the morning. So CAN I.
Watch this
The bottom line is I'm GREAT! I LOVE my hair. My house is GREAT! I do everything GOOD.
Just let my boss tell me anything different.
Friday, January 7, 2011
Put it on paper
I've heard it said "Take the pressure off you and put it on paper." I think this is a statement that needs some investigating. I'm going to use this space to investigate this saying. The following is my story.
Yesterday a rumor circulated around my place of business quicker than s**t through a goose (my dad used to say that). Here's the rumor... Three long-time employees were let go. No reason given. No two-week notice. Nothing. Don't let the door hit you on the way out. Btw, this rumor ended up being true. These 3 guys are gone. The only rumor part is WHAT the reason for the dismissal is.
Now, I don't know about you. In fact, I'm really not sure if anyone will see this. But, this is scary stuff in these "tough economic times."
There are details about this situation that I won't subject the casual reader to. However, one tiny thing is the fact that my boss is the AVP of the department these ex-employees worked under. Now, I know I'm not informed of all business "goings on" in this business, but, occasionally, one "hears" something. In this case, nothing. Scary stuff.
To add insult to injury, my boss (the AVP) decides to correct me on two infractions I have committed this fine day, at the end of the day. These infractions were small. No long lasting problems have or will occur, but they were mistakes non-the-less. Boy, his timing was PERFECT. My response had a lot to be desired. Sure I said I was sorry and would not be making those two mistakes again. But, in my typical ISTJ manner, I had to add "Are you building a case to fire me, as well?" Super! Why couldn't I say sorry and leave it at that. I've been sick to my stomach all day. I think you can guess that this detracts from Being Happy.
What do I do?
Ok, how does one remain happy in their place of employment during this type of pressure.
It's the weekend now and I'm blogging this hoping to get this pressure off me and on to this blog. Also, a little constructive advice would be nice, too. Also, I talked to my husband about this issue. He told me a management story about Type X and Type Y employees and coordinating management styles. It is interesting to think that some managers believe that keeping their employees fearful of their employment longevity is a way to get them to work better. I don't get my work ethic externally. I love to do a good job and feel part of a team. I am surprised that others don't have this motivation and only work well when watched or threatened. But, they've done the studies, so I know it's true. So, my guess is the managers believe all of us UN-Fired employees will start working harder so we don't become FIRED.
I'm going to go into the office on Monday, do my job, go home Monday night, and repeat this action for the rest of the week. If Monday is my last day... I will cross that bridge when I come to it.
And, I will pray.
Yesterday a rumor circulated around my place of business quicker than s**t through a goose (my dad used to say that). Here's the rumor... Three long-time employees were let go. No reason given. No two-week notice. Nothing. Don't let the door hit you on the way out. Btw, this rumor ended up being true. These 3 guys are gone. The only rumor part is WHAT the reason for the dismissal is.
Now, I don't know about you. In fact, I'm really not sure if anyone will see this. But, this is scary stuff in these "tough economic times."
There are details about this situation that I won't subject the casual reader to. However, one tiny thing is the fact that my boss is the AVP of the department these ex-employees worked under. Now, I know I'm not informed of all business "goings on" in this business, but, occasionally, one "hears" something. In this case, nothing. Scary stuff.
To add insult to injury, my boss (the AVP) decides to correct me on two infractions I have committed this fine day, at the end of the day. These infractions were small. No long lasting problems have or will occur, but they were mistakes non-the-less. Boy, his timing was PERFECT. My response had a lot to be desired. Sure I said I was sorry and would not be making those two mistakes again. But, in my typical ISTJ manner, I had to add "Are you building a case to fire me, as well?" Super! Why couldn't I say sorry and leave it at that. I've been sick to my stomach all day. I think you can guess that this detracts from Being Happy.
What do I do?
Ok, how does one remain happy in their place of employment during this type of pressure.
It's the weekend now and I'm blogging this hoping to get this pressure off me and on to this blog. Also, a little constructive advice would be nice, too. Also, I talked to my husband about this issue. He told me a management story about Type X and Type Y employees and coordinating management styles. It is interesting to think that some managers believe that keeping their employees fearful of their employment longevity is a way to get them to work better. I don't get my work ethic externally. I love to do a good job and feel part of a team. I am surprised that others don't have this motivation and only work well when watched or threatened. But, they've done the studies, so I know it's true. So, my guess is the managers believe all of us UN-Fired employees will start working harder so we don't become FIRED.
I'm going to go into the office on Monday, do my job, go home Monday night, and repeat this action for the rest of the week. If Monday is my last day... I will cross that bridge when I come to it.
And, I will pray.
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